But after a week of silence the anxiety is starting to surface. Although Amir is a great guy, he does have a tendency to be a little flaky. It’s understandable – he has a demanding job and an ex-partner and two kids to deal with, so he can’t always be available, but she would like some reassurance that he’s not going to cancel their date. And the fact that his messages have completely dried up makes her worried that this could be a possibility. Surely if he was as excited to see her as she is to see him, he’d have replied by now.
The problem is, he has form – he’s flaked on her before, more than once. But surely this is different. Before, that was just friends meeting for a drink. This is a DATE. Please God, PLEASE don’t let him cancel.
It’s impossible to know. Half the time Lucy worries that she’s not encouraging him enough – that she’s stuck to the ‘we’re just friends’ line so well that he’ll think she’s not interested and give up. The other half of the time she worries she should be playing harder to get. Men like the chase, don’t they?
Maybe she should have made him chase her, because now he doesn’t reply.
So he’s cancelled the date with no apology – and no suggestion that they reschedule. This does not bode well. She knows she should be angry, but she’s mostly just upset, and can’t stop checking her messages to see if he’s replied. She tries to distract herself with work, going to the gym, and randomly swiping on Bumble, but every time she logs in there she sees his profile at the top of her matches. It’s bloody infuriating.
The next day, Lucy hears some bad news that she knows will have indirectly affected Amir. Her immediate instinct is to get in touch with him, to see if he’s ok, but now she’s not sure if she can do that. She can’t double text him, can she? That really would be breaking all the rules.
It may also just be possible that the news isn’t all that bad, and it would be fine not to contact him, and Lucy might just be looking for an excuse. Maybe.
On the other hand, she tells herself, he’s a friend. If he’s received bad news, she should offer support.
So like the kind, caring person she is, she selflessly puts dating rules aside and messages him again.