*** Freshly Updated for 2020!***
When I decided to start this dating blog, back in 2017, the first thing I did was google other dating bloggers to see what they were doing. What did I like? What dating stories did I want to read? What sort of online dating experiences was I going to write about?
But I struggled. If you search for things like Top Dating Blogs, or Best Dating Blogs, or even if you narrow it down to UK Dating Blogs, Funny Dating Blogs, or Online Dating Blogs, the results are pretty unsatisfactory. What you mostly get is articles written by a bored web journalist somewhere, who did about ten minutes’ research to produce a list of the same sites that are on everyone else’s top dating blogs lists.
And the blogs on these lists have been doing the rounds for years! Most of them are company dating blogs belonging to various dating apps or websites, or they’re big shiny successful websites belonging to people who used to be dating bloggers ten years ago, but who’ve since moved onto other things (and usually marriage and babies too). They’re not actually dating bloggers writing about their real experiences.
And that’s what I wanted to find. But I couldn’t, so in the end I gave up and just did my own thing.
Since then, I’ve built this site, Lucy Goes Dating, into one of the UK’s Top 10 Dating Blogs. I’ve published over 150 posts, was Highly Commended in the UK Blog Awards, and have appeared on BBC Radio and two podcasts (but not telly cos, y’know, anonymity!).
And in the process, I’ve found my way into a community of other fantastic dating bloggers, who are putting themselves out there, right at the coalface of modern dating, going on dates, and sharing their advice and experiences. Bloggers who I think deserve more recognition.
In a way you could say this research took me two years – but it was worth it. So here it is: a proper list of brilliant Dating Bloggers Who Are Actually Blogging About Dating, in no particular order… (but obviously starting with myself because, well, I can!)
2/ A Dating Dad
Plus, he’s hot as fuck (or so he claims). How is the man still single?!
3/ Never Settle
Never Settle, run by Eve Greenow, was founded in 2014, six months after she came out of a 4-year toxic relationship. She felt compelled to write about her newfound issues, her personal dilemmas of Modern Dating, and contribute her little bit to anyone who would listen, of how not to make the same mistakes.
Nowadays, after winning the UK Blog Award 2019 for Dating and being highly commended in 2018, as well as several other nominations, Never Settle focuses on specific content to promote women’s health, dating and love life, as well as offering support in all areas of relationships for both men and women. Never Settle pushes the latest trends to the forefront of discussion, tackling controversial and taboo subjects head on, and looks to provide a range of outcomes to problems, and a way of achieving them, based on a mixture of personal experience and extensive psychological and sociological research. She’s even got her own ASK EVE section where she accepts all your anonymous questions, plus her new podcast.
Eve’s blog wasn’t created to complain, gloat or judge anyone, it’s there as a tool for anyone who wants to make themselves happier, better informed and ultimately more confident in their love lives. It is based on the belief that we only get one life, and you owe it to yourself to be happy.
4/ Bumbling Dad
His kids are almost grown up now, but there aren’t too many male parents (just) north of 50 writing about what it’s like to be single and looking for love in London in 2020.
Bumbling Dad’s ‘Crash & Burn’ dating style means that, unfortunately for him, Tinder, Bumble & Hinge have yet to offer him a match that’s stuck around, but fortunately for us, he’s still writing about his experiences.Seemingly lacking any filter whatsoever, hilarity is inevitable as he careers blindly through situations ranging from flatulence to intrusive dogs, losing his virginity, and why you should say ‘No’ to a first date that suggests you should accompany her to pick up her child from school. He’s still traumatised by that one.
5/ Rainy Bay
Cara aka Rainy Bay is SINGLE AF – but you won’t find her moaning about her lack of Significant Other. Instead, she’s giving you a no-nonsense, no-bullshit guide to modern dating and the highs and lows of finding ‘The One’.A dating and mental health blogger (and persistent over-sharer), Cara says she looks at the world of dating from ‘a chubby girl’s perspective’, with a mission to live her life regardless of waist size or relationship status. An eating disorder survivor, her blog is filled with stories of her dating mishaps, advice on getting over heartbreak, and her dating pet peeve, ‘ghosting’.Cara has been featured in Now, Woman and Fabulous magazine, telling her story of recovery and her journey of acceptance (body and love life alike). Rainy Bay is a feel-good blog that explores the highs and lows of looking for love, while asking ‘who even needs a boyfriend anyway?’
The Winter Tinderer is a woman in her mid/late 30s from a small and sleepy town in the Midlands. She works hard and enjoys her spare time with friends and occasionally a gentleman or two.
She finally decided to put pen to paper, or fingers to keyboard in 2020 to write about dating, swiping, failed relationships and the joys of being single. Having been single for about 12 years, the Winter Tinderer has tried it all, apps, speed dating, meeting people in real life and has stories galore to share about her experiences
What started as a collection of funny stories quickly turned to some heartfelt tales of current dating experiences and the choices she has made throughout her life. This anonymous blog covers it all, sex, dating, heartbreak. The good, the bad and the ugly. In its infancy as a blog but with a massive backlog of stories to keep it going for a while, and then the added intrigue of post-lockdown dating, it should be here for a while yet! If you’re looking for a laugh, occasionally a cry, and most importantly an honest and relatable blog, then this is for you.
We all know dating can be brutal at the best of times. And online dating seems to have upped the ante even further. While it may have made dating more convenient it hasn’t necessarily made it easier. In a world where it’s so easy to swipe left on someone for little things like incorrect grammar, photos with drugged tigers, too many gym selfies or having to guess which member of the group photo is the owner of the profile, it can be even harder to get a right swipe when you are a bigger girl. And assuming one passes that first hurdle, dating as a bigger girl presents its own unique set of challenges. From the cringeworthy exchanges on various dating platforms to embarrassing tales of bad dates, such as the blind date to the beach of all places, to navigating that awkward moment when you first get naked, to general posts about dating in 2020 Fat Girl’s Guide To Dating looks at the challenges of dating when you aren’t the perfect size and attempts to show the world that just because you are a bigger person it doesn’t mean you aren’t worthy of love too.
Some might say a recurring theme in her life is that when faced with an obstacle, passionate and impulsive Elle overcorrects just a tad. Moving on from cancer and a sexless marriage, she took on the world of online dating and explored her long-neglected sexual appetites. In a VERY big way. It has never been a search for love, but rather a whirlwind of adventures, farcical and heart-wrenching tales and a rapid escalation of sexual experiences.
A handy guide for what NOT to do, Elle’s addictive story unfolds as a journey, each sexual encounter detailed and examined for the reader’s enjoyment, and for Elle to learn a few lessons. Elle hopes you find something inspirational, titillating and relatable in her story, which we all hope ends happily ever after.
Alice started out her online journey as a dating blogger, once winning the award for Best Individual Dating Blog at the UK Blog Awards. She has also written for The Metro, The Telegraph, and Fabulous, along with appearing on ITV’s This Morning and various radio shows. These days, she is working on making her first foray into fiction, with a twist on the typical romance novel. She also writes blog posts on self-development, touching on how to be single and happy and attachment theory.
Stop Me is a 40-something gentleman with anecdotes aplenty about the online dating scenes in London and Brighton over the last 10 years or so. Single, never married and with no children, he could be described as forever stupid or forever hopeful. His blog details stories of lovers, girlfriends, friends and unbalanced individuals encountered along the way with gallows humour, frequent disbelief and the odd tear.
Beginning when internet dating was in its infancy and not as socially acceptable or popular as it is now, the entries highlight how dating has changed dramatically since the early noughties with the swipe app now commonplace.
In its simplest form it’s a dating blog, but it could also be viewed as a character study and how a social media driven society attempts to find a mate. It could also be seen as written therapy for the writer. The whole blog is also heavily influenced by the lyrics of The Smiths.
12/ Belle Of Balls
Belle is a 30 something career girl, meandering through the modern world of dating and relationships. What she writes is honest, raw and to the point. There are no holds barred with her writing and she talks frankly about the female side of love, lust and everything in between.
The aim of her blog is to make people understand that they aren’t alone in their experiences. That things happen sometimes that we wish we could change, that strength doesn’t always come easily and most of all, that the biggest lesson in life is to grow to know your own worth.
Bunny is a petite Feisty Greek belle with a love for words that start with the letter F: Friends, Family, Fur Babies, Fucks. Bunny started blogging five years ago after a failed Tinder date. She had no blogging experience, and also no idea how others would handle her straightforward approach to life. She jumped straight in with a bottle of wine and created Southern Georgia Bunny. Today, not only has she shared many dating fails with her beloved readers (and there have been MANY), but there have also been cooking disasters, road trip scares, sex gone wrong, and a lot of “WHAT THE FUCK” moments.Bunny shares her adventures on her blog in a refreshing, amusing, direct and genuine writing style. She shares her inner thoughts of what real women are thinking, as well as giving ideas, tips, and advice on what the fuck not to do. Grab a bottle of wine and join Bunny on her next escapade. Because folks life is a fucking adventure!
Who’s your favourite? Have I missed anyone? Let me know in the comments – or contact me!
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